Those of you whom have had an affair with the same-sex with someone whom attends the same gay affirming church you and your wife belong to, if you truly love your husband or wife, you need to do the right thing and attend a church that opposes homosexuality, according to God's Word. If the both of you joined a gay affirming church that supported gay couples, then you possibly were walking into an atmosphere that was a danger to your marriage. If both of you really love each other, how could either of you attend a church that supports homosexuality in the first place? However, if both of you already belong to a church that was once against homosexuality, but changed into a gay affirming ministry, then it would have been best for both of you agree to leave that church. In Amos, 3:3, the Bible says, 'Can two walk together, except they be agreed?' So even if both of you agreed to remain in that gay affirming church, but one of you did not agree with it in your heart, then God could no longer bless your marriage, because you had a conscious when you discovered your pastor was going to support homosexuality. So, how could you expect your marriage to last? How could you think your husband and wife would not be approached by someone of the same sex, if the pastor condoned gay and lesbian relationships? In a gay affirming church, there is no anointing to protect you from that demonic spirit attacking your marriage, so it is very unfair to God for you to think your husband or wife would always remain with you and not follow those whom are attracted to the same sex in that ministry. Therefore, you had already ruined your marriage when you did not consider speaking with your husband or wife about finding a church that opposes homosexuality. Now that you and your spouse are about to go to divorce court, you maybe sorry about your affair, which may not have begun if it was not for the both of you attending a gay affirming church.
Are you the husband or wife whom had an affair with the same sex and desire to save your marriage? Obviously, your spouse is the one divorcing you and you do not want that to happen. God's solution for your marriage to be saved, is simply for you to repent and ask for God's forgiveness. You must admit you were wrong for attending that sort of church, so you should ask God to cleanse you from the demon of lust. God wants to save your marriage, but you must be willing to admit you were wrong. You know, many times the spirit of pride steps in and will try to control your spirit from humbling yourself before the almighty throne of God. If you love your husband or wife, you must bow down on your knees and tell God you are sorry for having an affair. Next step, contact and approach your spouse and tell him or her you repented to God and then, you are sorry for having an affair. It does not matter if it was the opposite sex, we would advise you to do the same thing. Let your spouse know, you desire to save your marriage, even if it means the both of you finding a church that opposes homosexuality. Then, when you find that right church, make sure the pastor preaches complete holiness and does not condone sin. Then, you must find out if that pastor provides counseling for troubled marriages, if not, then that is the wrong church. Many times, these mega churches are so big, they will advise you to go seek therapy, so that is a sure sign that you are in the wrong church. You must find a pastor whom will provide time to counsel you and your wife, at least once a week.
Possibly, you are not the one whom had the affair and it was your husband or wife whom slept with the same sex, we advise you to pray and seek God. We do not advise you to approach your spouse, unless he or she approaches you, because they must be willing to change and turn away from their sinful affair. However, you may consider leaving that gay affirming church as a sign that you will not deal with your spouse's affair, then if your spouse follows you and does not desire to remain in that ministry with the person he or she slept with, it could be a sign that your spouse still loves you and desires to save the marriage. By leaving that gay affirming church, you are clearly saying you are finished with your marriage, since your husband and wife refuses to stop their affair. Then your spouse will know he must choose you or remain with the other person. If your spouse never repents or apologizes for the affair that is not your problem and just because they may not admit they were wrong when you leave that church, it does not mean God still won't speak to his or her heart. God can still give your cheating husband or wife a mind to repent and come back to you, but it must be his or her choice without your persuasion, because they must show they do not want to be in a gay or lesbian relationship.
We both advise both of you to spend time in prayer before getting a divorce, but you never will have any peace while your husband or wife is in a gay relationship. All sorts of Sexually Transmitted Diseases have never ceased and it pays to be holy and righteous. In the black church, it seems like more pastors of gay affirming churches would be more cautious and protect the sanctity of marriage between men and women, after realizing many black men and black women lost their lives to AIDS, because possibly a husband or wife slept with someone whom had the disease.
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